Read a recent fortune of mine when I was out to lunch.
On the same day that we signed all the paperwork to finalize the purchase of our new house.
Fast forward ANOTHER week.
We were still not in our house. There was botched paperwork. There was lost paperwork. There were questions upon questions upon questions. We rescheduled deliveries. We rescheduled installations. We waited. And waited. And waited. We were endlessly patient.
On the day I read that fortune, I recall thinking to myself “This has got to be a joke”. So many things had already happened to derail our plans and turn our family upside down, but we had remained optimistic. Looking back now on that day, I realize I may have taken it to heart.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how a person can prepare for the unexpected. Do you remain endlessly pessimistic, assuming the worst? Could I have possibly imagined all the bizarre twists our “new home” journey would take us on? Would I have wanted to? If someone had laid out all the setbacks we would have, would we have had the courage to plow forward?
Is it better to be unfailingly optimistic? To assume the best around every turn, only to be disappointed by inevitable pitfalls?
Where is the happy medium?
I like to think that I am a fairly optimistic person, with a heavy dose of realism. We try to take the setbacks in stride, to see the light at the end of the tunnel, to see the positive and joyful aspects in a negative situation. With all of that in mind, I struggled towards the end of our journey. Each day came great hope and with each day came dashed expectations. The ups and downs got to be extremely wearing and it became harder and harder to see the light.
We are now through the madness and dove straight into a new level of crazy in the new house, but this is a joyful crazy marked with sighs of relief. I’d like to think that buying a house has got to be up there in the list of “Things that Threaten to Make you Lose your Mind” and I’m proud of our family for making it through relatively unscathed.
I still want to know. How do you manage the ups and downs of life? Share with us how you have made it through a difficult situation with your head still screwed on straight. Deep breathing? Family, friends? Faith? A glass of wine? A good temper tantrum?