I’m reading Gretchen Rubin’s “The Happiness Project”, which is basically her year-long voyage to becoming happier. She breaks her goals and resolutions down by month and makes small changes to her lifestyle, behavior and mood. I love the breakdown and the idea of setting manageable goals to make life more enjoyable.
One of the ideas that has resonated with me is her description of the “Arrival Fallacy”. What this essentially means is that we anticipate our goals or events in the future so much and overestimate how much fun and joy they will bring us, that we forget to enjoy the moments that build up to said event.
The more I think about this idea in relation to Christmas, the more it strikes a chord with me. I thoroughly enjoy Christmas as a general concept, not just the actual day itself. I do love spending time with my family and enjoying a nice dinner, but the day is over so quickly and it seems like all the time spent preparing, buying gifts, wrapping gifts and just thinking about how great Christmas will be is gone in a flash.
We prepared a fairly loose Bucket List this year at the beginning of the month and I really feel like this helped us enjoy the little moments. We did all the things we wanted to do (decorating cookies, checking out lights, seeing the reindeer) without feeling rushed. The actual day of Christmas was nice, but I feel like we did a good job of really appreciating all the small memories that the month of December brings.
This concept can be applied to so many different things: birthday parties, weddings, holidays. I truly hope that our family can put this into practice throughout the year. For example, I tend to get stressed out about birthday parties. I’m hoping by consciously thinking about how fun it is to plan a party and not just how great the party itself will supposedly be, I can stop viewing the planning as a chore.
I’d love to hear your thoughts!